5 Things I've Learnt From Dating.

5 Things I've Learnt From Dating.

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Getting into relationships could seem like hard work or a do or die affair in an age with so much social media presence and people picking up their validations from a sense of being loved.

I’ll be sharing some of the things i've learnt form dating all of which are pulled out from interactions with different age groups and people from different works of life.

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•      Date someone you can’t stand: Am playing here with comparisons but I think at times you should date someone you cannot stand, someone who totally irks just because. This just helps you to know your limit and helps you get a better grasp of yourself and what not to deal with in the nearest future. Dating someone you can’t stand stretches you helping you to know you can actually live with any kind of person.

Love that lasts are the kind that grows and not the one that is always high up.

•    Date someone for his or her money: A popular song says (Whether na 1naira na one million baby you got me). Here am telling you to date a guy for his 1million my dear girl, date a guy you know of his financial capacity don’t get carried away with the love alone. Financial capacity is the main ingredient of any love potion.

This is not to say that you date someone solely for their money.

Also you could try dating a woman that has money as a guy believing that she will spoil you. There is nothing wrong in dating a woman who is more financially more capable than you.

•         Date someone you don’t plan to marry: Try this out and date someone of an opposite religion, different tribe or even so a temperament which you are not compatible with from the popular book on temperaments. I for one like to put Nigerian parents under pressure so you could date a guy or a girl form the tribe or religion your parents will never approve of. This will help to foster room for people being more accommodative of other religions and tribe. Take for instance you go to study in faraway Australia away from home wouldn’t it be nice to date someone while you are there studying (Remember! All work and no play makes Jack/Jill dull)

•             You are entitled to nothing: This is a really superb idea when going into a relationship being able to understand that it is just a relationship and not an entitlement or some right. To be a participant of this you must learn to manage your expectations.

•            Be your worst self: Learn to be your worst self. Show your other half or date partner your worst side, your weakness.

Present your worst self during all the days when you have butterflies so your partner is not necessarily deceived or lured by what won’t last.

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Here's a disclaimer: This post was written out of trying not to follow the norm at all times. If dating means commitment to you make sure you do go for it... I for one wants just as indicated below.

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This post was written by the Chief Editor of this blog Oluwadamilola Omotunde. 

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A Life Manifesto

If you had a life manifesto what would it contain? 

I found a beautiful one and had to share to you my wonderful readers.

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P.S If you don't know what medium is you are on a long thing

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13 Success Tips For 2016

No matter how old you are, where you’re from or what you do for a living, we all share something in common—a desire to be successful. Each person’s definition of success is different, however, as some may define success as being a loving and faithful spouse or a caring and responsible parent, while most people would equate success with wealth, fame, and power.

We all want to achieve success so we could live a comfortable life—have financial freedom, drive a nice car, and live in a beautiful house. However, although success can be achieved, it does not come easy.

There are a lot of tips and strategies out there on how to be successful in life, but I am still a firm believer that there is no better way to succeed than to follow that footsteps of those who have already done so. Here are 13 success tips from some of the world’s most successful and renowned people:

1. Think big.

From Michelangelo Buonarroti, Great Renaissance Artist: “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”

2. Find what you love to do and do it.

From Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul: “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job and not be paid for it.”

3. Learn how to balance life.

From Phil Knight, CEO of Nike Inc.: “There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success.”

4. Do not be afraid of failure.

From Henry Ford, Founder of Ford Motors: “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

5. Have an unwavering resolution to succeed.

From Colonel Sanders, Founder of KFC: “I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”

6. Be a man of action.

From Leonardo da Vinci, Renaissance Genius :“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”



7. Avoid conflicts.

From Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of America: “The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”

8. Don’t be afraid of introducing new ideas.

From Mark Twain, Famed Author: “A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

9. Believe in your capacity to succeed.

From Walter Disney, Founder of Walt Disney Company: “If you can dream it, you can do it.”

10. Always maintain a positive mental attitude.

From Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of America: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

11. Don’t let discouragement stop you from pressing on.

From Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of America: “Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.”

12. Be willing to work hard.

From JC Penny, Founder of JC Penney Inc.: “Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.”

13. Be brave enough to follow your intuition.

From Steve Jobs, Co-founder of Apple Inc.: “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

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Sheryl Sandberg To Her Younger Self On Starting Out

Sheryl Sandberg, COO at Facebook and founder of LeanIn.Org

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Find work you love. When you believe in what you are doing, you can combine passion with contribution – and that is a true gift. Keep trying and you will find what you love to do… and once you do, you will crush it.

Believe you can do anything. This is important for everyone and especially for women. Don’t let anyone tell you can’t have both a meaningful professional career and a fulfilling personal life. When you hear someone say you can't do something, know that you can and start figuring out how. Ask yourself, “What would I do if I weren’t afraid?”

There is no straight path to where you are going. If you try to draw that line you will not just get it wrong, but you will miss big opportunities. As Pattie Sellers of Fortune Magazine says, careers are not ladders but jungle gyms.  You don't have to have it all figured out. I recommend adopting two concurrent goals:

1.      A long-term dream: It doesn't have to be realistic or even specific. For example, you might say you want to work in a specific field, travel the world, and have more free time. Even a vague goal can provide direction.

2.      An 18-month plan: Set personal goals for what you want to learn in the next year and a half. Ask yourself how you can improve and what you're afraid to do (that's usually the thing you should try).

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10 time-management tips from Ernest Hemingway

Ernest Miller Hemingway was an American novelist, short story writer, and journalist. His economical and understated style had a strong influence on 20th-century fiction, while his life of adventure and his public image influenced later generations.

1. Stay on your toes.

“Never sit a table when you can stand at the bar.”

Standing keeps you in a state of readiness—to make connections, observations, or even a hasty retreat, should one be necessary.

2. Be selective.

“Never to go on trips with anyone you do not love.”

Whether choosing travel companions or colleagues, surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Nothing impedes productivity like forced conversation.

3. Always start in pencil.

“Wearing down seven number-two pencils is a good day’s work.”

Papa often waxed poetic about the importance of writing in pencil, even measuring his productivity in worn-down implements versus the words on the page. The practice is at least as important as the product—so whether you’re sketching or scrawling, consider the eraser your creative liberator.

4. Stick to the facts.

“If I started to write elaborately, or like someone introducing or presenting something, I found that I could cut that scrollwork or ornament out and throw it away and start with the first true simple declarative sentence I had written.”

Feigning knowledge or needlessly elaborating upon the facts only creates extra work for everyone involved. In communications both personal and professional, just stick to the simple truth—it’ll set you free.

5. Never stop working.

“We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master.”

Any work worth doing is never truly finished. There’s always room for

 improvement, so stop focusing on the destination and start enjoying the 

journey.

6. Be honest with yourself.

“You shouldn’t write if you can’t write.”

Life’s too short for denial. Find your natural talent, and run with it.

7. Write what you know.

“Up in that room I decided that I would write one story about each thing that I knew about. I was trying to do this all the time I was writing, and it was good and severe discipline.”

Or say what you know. Or do what you know. Whether you’re penning a novel or trying to build a process from the ground up, brilliant ideas don’t come out of thin air; they’re inspired by real experience.

8. Don’t be paralyzed by fear.

“The first draft of anything is shit.”

Pardon Hemingway's candor, but he’s right: It’s better start something poorly than to not start it at all. Rather than procrastinate until you have a “plan,” try tackling your next project immediately—even if you have no idea where it’s going yet.

9. Pay attention.

“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”

You’d be amazed how much time you can waste by circling back to things—conversations, processes, projects—that were crystal clear from the beginning. Approach new challenges with open eyes, ears, and mind, and you’ll already be ahead of the game.

10. Believe it or not, write sober.

“My training was never to drink after dinner nor before I wrote nor while I was writing.”

This is a convincing counter to the “write drunk, edit sober” edict often attributed to Hemingway, the validity of which is murky at best. No man known for such syntactical precision could possibly have been toasted at the typewriter. The man enjoyed a drink, but only in the right time and place.

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The Mindset of A Successful Woman

Always wanted to be a successful woman?
See below some mindsets you will be needing to inculcate and also understand

1. See a world of abundance
There are two types of people in the world, those who see abundance and those who see scarcity. The reality is that the world is one of abundance, and once you see that, the way you approach life radically changes. Rather than compete with others and operate out of fear, you learn to work together and succeed together. You understand that if you don't achieve a goal this time around, there's plenty of opportunity down the line. Once you open your mind to the abundance of wealth all around you, you can harness it to achieve your dreams.

2. Use fear to your advantage
A friend of Robert's and mine says that fear is the indicator that there is usually something great on the other side. He has vowed to always "walk into the fear." One quote he shares is by Ralph Waldo Emerson: "He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life." When you are afraid to do something great, like start a business or invest in a new asset, use that fear to help propel you forward, not turn you away. Go under it, over it, around it, through it - but don't hang around in it.

3. Listen to your inner Yoda
There's a great scene from Star Wars where Yoda tells Luke, "There is no try. There is only do." One of the things that holds women back the most is the words "try" and "can't." You can, and you will. Don't use language that has defeat already built in. Instead, consider how you can do it and then either choose to do it, or not to do it.

4. Take responsibility
The worst thing you can do is blame others for your mistakes. Doing that keeps us in a holding pattern, unable to grow because we're so busy trying to stop everybody from holding us back. Really, we're the only ones holding us back. When you fail, own it. When you succeed, own that too. Learn what you can and move on. It's the only way forward.

5. Be generous
There's a tendency for women to be competitive with each other. Shocker, right? You're probably successful because others have invested in you. There is no woman who is an island unto herself (to modify the old adage). Someone probably invested in you, generously too. Do the same with others who can benefit from your knowledge. And maybe you'll even learn something along the way.

6. Always be learning
Nothing stops success like a closed mind. The world changes so rapidly that if you don't keep learning, you'll soon be left behind. Look for lessons wherever you can find them. Read continually. Do and learn. An open mind is an open door to success.

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10 Tips On Living A Positive Life

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1. Be comfortable in your own skin.

Everyone was born with a flaw. No one is perfect. Accept yourself with what you're born with. 

2. Appreciate what you have and never compare yourself with others.

You will never be truly happy if you keep looking outside and wish you have what you don't. 

3. See the positive in every situation.

You can choose to be stuck in a bad situation or let go, move on, and start anew.

4. Let go of your need to control.

Trying to control things will not only drive other people away but also hinders you from achieving happiness from within.

5. Drop the resentment within.

Only when you learn to let go, you let your soul free from the pain.

6. Live in the moment.

7. Avoid overanalyzing.

Most of the time, we never actually get an answer but a set of worries.

8. Stop worrying about the future.

Worrying doesn't make anything better 

9. Drop your ego and be true.

10. Have an open mind.

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Understanding Returns By: Ifeoma Adeoye

A person may derive satisfaction and personal fulfillment from an investment or business endeavor but the primary aim of any business or investment is to make gains and maximize returns. The return on your investment is the percentage change in value of the investment over a given period of time. Basically, it is the total income from the investment minus all the expenses incurred in the process of generating the income.

Understanding returns is important as it simplifies your investment decision making process. When you understand returns, you start to understand the concept of “the time value of money – Money today is worth more than the same amount of money tomorrow” and the “opportunity cost of money – what I may be losing by holding or spending this money today”.

A typical savings account in Nigeria yields about 3-4% per annum, depending on the bank and all other things being equal. This means that if you deposit N1,000,000 in a savings account and you do not withdraw the money during the course of the year, you would receive a N35,000 (assuming 3.5% return) return on your money. Great right?

Let us assume that you are a trader and you purchase a product at N100 and sell it at N1,000. You incur an additional N300 in expenses from transportation cost, utility bills, wages etc. Your total cost will be N400 per unit (as we are assuming there is only one product and no taxes), hence your return would be 60%. Great right?

Basically, there is always a return to be made, however small it may be, by just doing something extra, whether it is by deliberately putting your money in a savings account or actively investing it. The higher the risk inherent in an investment, the higher the return. Notice the return from the savings account is “small”. This is because a savings account is considered relatively risk free (unless the bank goes under, your money is pretty safe). Other investments may yield higher returns but they may be more risky.

Before you embark on any investment, you must understand your risk appetite and know your investment goals and objectives. Take caution when investing your money and endeavor to thoroughly understand the nature of the investment before you invest your money. It is always safer to diversify your investment portfolio (basically do not put all your eggs in one basket. Invest in different asset types and classes to manage your risk, so that if something goes wrong with one investment, the gains from your other investments or assets would compensate for your loss and you would not be in a bad financial state)

There are other “relatively riskless” investment products that may offer up to 12% returns per annum. Speak to your financial adviser to find out more about them.

When it comes to finances, ask, ask, and ask questions! What you do not know, you do not know. It is your responsibility to find out all that is potentially available to you and take advantage of them.

So let us get out there and start thinking and speaking “returns”

Remember, start now, start small – just do it!

About Ifeoma Adeoye

Ifeoma Adeoye is an economist by training and a business strategist & management consultant by profession. She is keen on social and charitable causes and spends a considerable amount of her spare time establishing and providing financial advisory services to small scale businesses in Nigeria. She is also a motivational speaker and is passionate about motivating people to be innovative, entrepreneurial, financially savvy and independent. She loves all things related to making money legitimately and believes that we should all strive to have lots of it. You can contact her via email at ifeoma.adeoye@gmail.com and on twitter @nairalogue

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The Chronicles Of Side Hustle

This article was written by a friend and I do not take any credit please read a brief introduction about him  after the article

Maybe  Maybe Not

When the white man berthed on the shores of Africa and colonized us, they found that the riches in the land were bulging beyond measure so, they built corporations in Africa to harvest these riches. However, they needed people to work in these corporations obediently without having the nerves or thought to question their exploits till they were done milking the land dry. They therefore taught us how to work for the 'slave master'. To hustle and strive day and night without question. They wanted slaves who would be brainwashed to living like kings with shackles on their necks so, they paid us well. Money was coming to our pockets monthly more than we worked for and we got more relaxed and lazier by the paycheck. We looked at them as gods and we worked harder and harder and read more and more in school and with more knowledge, we became greedier. So we took back our land and corporations from the white man and drove them back. Our short happiness turned sour very fast. We were taught to work and not build. We were taught to slave and not manage. We were taught to follow and not lead  and the result was that these corporations like the Royal Niger Company, British Bank of West Africa, etc were grounded to bankruptcy. We began to work  for and survive on less money but they had made our pockets bigger and our mouths bigger and 'our eye don tear'. But we had started to amass knowledge, we began to find alternative sources of income to pay our bills and feed our family. 'Fast forward to  the 21st century'. A new set of 'slave masters' evolved. Companies started paying close to nothing and people were forced to waking up by 5, dragging themselves to work and earning peanuts and be thankful to the 'new slave masters' For giving them an opportunity to be 'slaves'. So we started to seek for our freedom, we began to start businesses in the night, on the weekends, on the public holidays. Not just for freedom but for more money and happiness and it is beginning to pay off. In 2015, the world bank stated that Nigeria has the most female entrepreneurs in the world. Another article wrote that a Nigerian woman is four times more likely to start a business than a woman from another country. New corporations are budding from Africa. Things are looking up. There is hope. In every family, there is at least one person Starting a side hustle, a new company, a new business, a new venture because we realize finally that our jobs can not take care of us, our jobs can not pay our bills, our jobs can not give us happiness and we have began to flourish by taking steps in a new direction. Starting our own businesses while we work for the slave masters and hoping, praying and working till the day that we can buy back our freedom. So please note that. THE SIDE HUSTLE IS NOT ABOUT MONEY, IT IS ABOUT OUR FREEDOM...or you can say 'our freedom to make more money the way we choose. One day it will be fine and when your part time job or side hustle begins to pull in more money than your full time job, you know you have bought back your freedom. You should listen to this song Embers by Owlcity.

This article was written by Andrew Ogbodo:

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Talk Tuesday

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Good morning trust you had a wonderful Monday with the tips I shared yesterday :) . I had planned for today to be for random talk but I was going through my facebook page and found a very heart warming story that I could not resist but share here for you my wonderful readers.

Dr. Jennifer Krajewski, Pediatric Blood and Marrow Transplantation, Joseph M. Sanzari Children’s Hospital at HackensackUMC, stands behind Elizabeth, Tosin and Esther Adegboyega as they celebrate Elizabeth being cured of Sickle Cell Anemia. PHOTO COURTESY: HACKENSAKUMC

Seven years ago at 20 weeks pregnant, Tosin Adegboyega, of Rahway, was given the news that her unborn daughter would be born with Sickle Cell Anemia. Even after having her second child, Esther, who was free of the disease, Tosin never once gave up hope for a breakthrough for Elizabeth.

"My OB/GYN called me to say my amniocentesis was positive for sickle cell and I laid on the kitchen floor with my face down sobbing. I had bonded with my child and knew I had to carry the pregnancy to full-term. Throughout my pregnancy, I convinced myself that my child did not have sickle cell. The world calls it denial; I call it faith," said Tosin.

After years of managing Elizabeth’s illness with rounds of penicillin, pain-relieving medications and constant viral attacks that kept her in and out of the Emergency Department, Tosin met with Dr. Jennifer Krajewski, in the Department of Pediatric Blood and Bone Marrow Transplantation at the Joseph M. Sanzari Children’s Hospital at HackensackUMC. She learned of the Reduced Intensity Stem Cell Transplantation that would offer a possible cure. The greatest chance of a full cure was with a sibling match and it turned out that her younger sister, Esther, age six, was a match.

"I got really excited and did the HLMA typing kit when it was mailed to my home. I sent in the specimen and in two weeks found out the girls were a match. I cried tears of joy and shouted halleluiah! The next day I called HackensackUMC and the journey to transplant began," said Tosin.

HackensackUMC currently has a study, "Reduced Intensity Stem Cell Transplantation for Sickle Cell Anemia in Patients two to 30 years old," where matching disease-free bone marrow is transplanted into the patient to eradicate the disease.

On March 27, 2014, both Elizabeth and Esther went into surgery for the bone marrow transplant. Esther’s donation was taken from her hip bone and done in an outpatient setting. She was able to go home later that day. Elizabeth had a four-week stay as the stem cell transplant took hold and started to fight the Sickle Cell Anemia.

"Both girls were delightful to care for — Elizabeth was an amazing patient during her month-long stay for the transplant. Esther did an amazing job during the donation," said Dr. Krajewski.

Elizabeth just celebrated the one-year anniversary of her transplant and is considered 100-percent cured of Sickle Cell Anemia. She will be continually monitored for the next few months as a part of the study.

"Although we can only offer this treatment to a small number of patients because we need a perfect match, we have 11 patients enrolled in the study with matched sibling donors," said Dr. Krajewski. "The overall survival and cure of the sickle cell disease are both a remarkable 100 percent. Although our study is institution-al only, many other centers across the nation are performing this transplant and our study will become part of the national consortium later this year."


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Tips for Monday Morning

Tips for Monday Morning

Hey guys!! Today I will be sharing some tips on how to handle Monday morning be cause I know we all wish Monday morning had a face.

1. Develop a sweet spot:

 A sweet spot is something you do or think about that makes your heart smile(this definition was coined by presenters of The Spot on Ebony Life Tv) so how about developing a sweet spot from Sunday night towards Monday morning and give our guy(Monday Morning) a chill pill.
 My sweet spot towards morning is painting my nails I don't know how it works but trust me it does so you should get yours also you will be glad.

2. Gratitude:

 Am a positivity enthusiast so being grateful helps to put me in a right mind for things. So when you think about being able to wake up in the morning. Having a job or a place of learning to attend then you will be grateful

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