5 Things I've Learnt From Dating.
Getting into relationships could seem like hard work or a do or die affair in an age with so much social media presence and people picking up their validations from a sense of being loved.
I’ll be sharing some of the things i've learnt form dating all of which are pulled out from interactions with different age groups and people from different works of life.
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- Date someone you can’t stand: Am playing here with comparisons but I think at times you should date someone you cannot stand, someone who totally irks just because. This just helps you to know your limit and helps you get a better grasp of yourself and what not to deal with in the nearest future. Dating someone you can’t stand stretches you helping you to know you can actually live with any kind of person.
Love that lasts are the kind that grows and not the one that is always high up.
- Date someone for his or her money: A popular song says (Whether na 1naira na one million baby you got me). Here am telling you to date a guy for his 1million my dear girl, date a guy you know of his financial capacity don’t get carried away with the love alone. Financial capacity is the main ingredient of any love potion.
This is not to say that you date someone solely for their money.
Also you could try dating a woman that has money as a guy believing that she will spoil you. There is nothing wrong in dating a woman who is more financially more capable than you.
- Date someone you don’t plan to marry: Try this out and date someone of an opposite religion, different tribe or even so a temperament which you are not compatible with from the popular book on temperaments. I for one like to put Nigerian parents under pressure so you could date a guy or a girl form the tribe or religion your parents will never approve of. This will help to foster room for people being more accommodative of other religions and tribe. Take for instance you go to study in faraway Australia away from home wouldn’t it be nice to date someone while you are there studying (Remember! All work and no play makes Jack/Jill dull)
- You are entitled to nothing: This is a really superb idea when going into a relationship being able to understand that it is just a relationship and not an entitlement or some right. To be a participant of this you must learn to manage your expectations.
- Be your worst self: Learn to be your worst self. Show your other half or date partner your worst side, your weakness.
Present your worst self during all the days when you have butterflies so your partner is not necessarily deceived or lured by what won’t last.
Here's a disclaimer: This post was written out of trying not to follow the norm at all times. If dating means commitment to you make sure you do go for it... I for one wants just as indicated below.
This post was written by the Chief Editor of this blog Oluwadamilola Omotunde.
This post was made possible by Samuel (Sam is a daytime banker and a night full-fledged creative thinker seeking whom to share ideas with)
